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Dilemma Thursday









Dilemma: " I have been going out with a guy (we've known each other for almost 3 years but we are on and off. 2 weeks he's so into me and out of the blue he's distant and it's not even the first time he does that "
Answer: The fact that you guys are on and off for almost 3 years is a sign that this relationship isn't healthy ! It's looking like a bad habit if i'm honest with you. I will advise that you let him go because it does not seem that he is treating you the way that you deserve. You definitely deserve more than this, you deserve someone who gives you stability and somebody who doesn't just have an on and off switch with your heart. If he loves you, trust me when I say he wouldn't treat you like this. Just find a way to let go and next time make sure you do not settle for less ! 

Dilemma: "Soo me and my girlfriend have been going threw rough 2 - 3 weeks cause we've been cheating"
Answer: If i understand this correctly, you've both been cheating? Well this doesn't sound healthy at all ! You need to both let go, this isn't worth it and both of you are obviously not as happy as you need to be if we are being honest ! If you need to cheat that means you're no longer in love with the person you are with ands it is that simple. You both deserve better than what you are giving each other ! 

Dilemma: "He seen me, and lurk my pages, n doesn't want to talk"
Answer: Loool this just sounds like a guy with no action, you don't need him sis ! If he does not have the balls to reach out to you or attempt to hit you up then he isn't  the one for you! Or maybe he just likes viewing your pictures, I don't know. But what i do know is if he doesn't approach you or say anything, nobody will know what it is! I mean if you're confident enough to ask him what's up, then do it sis, you have nothing to lose ! 

Dilemma: "Why do niggahs let they pride take over how they really feel n wanna block a bih"
Answer: Many guys have pride and it's all to do with their ego, it's nothing new. I know many guys who have let the women they love get away all due to stupid pride and I could never understand it. You've got to let him know that if he continues the way he is you're going to bounce without looking back ! Maybe that might wake him up ... Only God knows ! It's time you give him an ultimatum and if he still chooses his pride, then girl you've got to bounce, you deserve better than that ! 


Dilemma : "Why are women afraid to have a honest relationship with a real man"
Answer: Hmmmmm i wouldn't say this applies to all women but I do know of some that are afraid of this. I know that this is the case because some females are scared of heartbreak so that is why they prefer to hide things in order for them not to be vulnerable to be heartbroken. If you want a woman to be honest with you, you have to be honest with them, it's just that simple ! 


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